I'm a 50 year old woman, college educated and faced this problem as a child. The problem disappeared when i was around 28 and then reappeared when I hit my mid-40s. It's to the point that I avoided groups without realizing this was the reason why.

I also have incontinence (some of the time) when I sneeze or cough. Those are minor, but when I laugh hard, I lose all control. Like Giggler, I can go to the bathroom a few minutes before, and still have this issue.
I'd love to be able to enjoy being with people again in a fun setting, but don't want to have to wear adult diapers to do so. By the way, I do not have medical insurance, our free medical clinic cannot assist, and we don't have money for medical appointments. Yes, I've tried kegel exercises, which don't help.

Any suggestions? Is there a potential that there is something that can be done medically?